The most scary 3 seconds of my life
Eforie Sud, September 25, 2006.
For the first time I actually felt close to all the people next to me in the past 3 days, they became so dear to me, I care for them and never told them this. I do now: you guys are closer and more dear to me than never before. About 6 of us were getting prepared to take a photo next to the sea, on a small concrete hold. We were almost ready, just sitting really close to each other and not moving, waiting for the picture to be taken. In a matter of maybe one second the concrete broke under us. That wasn't so good as behind us was a wall of stones and the sea. Not so high, but feeling that we are really falling felt so long and scary. It is not just me saying it felt like 3 minutes not 3 seconds. Those 3 seconds were terrifying for me. Just for those 3 seconds, felt like 3 minutes, I had death in my mind. My death and theirs. Not just the end of life, but something really bad. I was damn scared of this and admit it.
We were actually ok and "landed" as safe as possible. Alinuta was the only one who hit her head on a stone and she said nothing for some moments. Next to me was Dora and her. I held them both so strong, each with one hand, and Dora held Alinutza. This was what saved us and that we all held against each other. I never thought I could be so strong. It was Alinutza's birthday that day and I don't know why when I saw her lying there I had the most scary 3 seconds of my life. Some screams, some very little panic moments, bruises and we were all ok. For me it is the second time I am seconds or inches away from death. The first one was on the way to a conference, at about 2 inches away from a truck and 3 seconds not to go under it at high speed. Then I was really calm and just looking at the truck in front of us without moving or breathing. Nobody in the car spoke for the next 5 minutes and we just went on and didn't stop.
I am grateful.
Time management - action #2
Yupiii... I found another great thing that is helping me spend less time in the Internet jungle, or at least it is making the journey much easier. Google Reader - I was a google fan anyway, so now I am really happy I can receive directly new posts from the blogs I read or websites I like.
Quite late, I know, don't tell me :) I actually feel like discovering the light bulb!!!
I am Dalia
Post number 50 and I don't think I have actually introduced myself. I am Dalia.
Here is what wikipedia says I am and most probably I will tell you many times in many ways who I am, here.
Surprised to see that actually my name not only comes from the flowers name, but from the Swedish botanist Anders Dahl and that the dahlia is the official flower of the city of Seattle. Two new things for today.
Unfortunately the web only could say one thing about my meaning: "Fragrant" Hehe :) Now you either understand what you want from that or I will tell you later what I am all about.
The day for love
Stefan says today it is the day against love and that "when the day fights against our love, we need to fight back". September 11, 1983 first child of a family, a baby boy was born. He was the best thing that could have happened to those people, beautiful and smart kid. He was reading and writing at age of 4. He was diagnosed with leukemia at 5 and past away a few days before his 6th birthday, so aware of what is going to happen to him. This is the case when you simply just say "it was written"... because a mother has no other explanation. You cannot fight back.
Sometimes every day it's a day for love and sometimes it's against it. I always seem to stop feeling anything in this kind of days: breath, blink and do the normal activities. One big sigh late in the night and this is it., a day for remembering the love...nothing more.
Time management - action # 1
You are the worse person when it comes to time management even if you have attended at least 3 professional training and read tons of materials? Change it's in your hands... and we can do this together!!!
FIRST BIG STEP: get rid of all the useless stupid things that were making you click click click... and then laugh, but still wasting a lot of precious time.
Ok... here is the first action I took in order to achieve this: http://www.hi5.com and then...


Thinking about the next actions.. any ideas?
Sins can be washed away
Cool Sciam article... made me smile...
"Physical cleanliness and moral purity have a long association in religion, language and other human behaviors. Cleanliness is next to godliness; the Mandarin term for a thief is "a pair of dirty hands"; and, perhaps most famously, Lady Macbeth desperately attempts to wash away a spot of blood after murdering Duncan. Behavioral researchers Chen-Bo Zhong of the University of Toronto and Katie Liljenquist at Northwestern University explored this so-called "Macbeth effect" in a series of experiments with undergraduates. The research revealed that, unconsciously at least, you can wash away your sins. In the first study, 60 Northwestern students were isolated and asked to describe either an ethical or unethical action they had undertaken in their lives."
Read the full article here:
Disappointment
Those who know me, know that I am not childish. But childish or not, again I have the dam failure feeling regarding school. I had yesterday the second marketing exam [I failed the first one] and now it was even worse. Not because I didn't know what to write, but simply because I had so much pressure on me: time - I am too slow; circumstances - so many students, I didn't have not even enough space on the desk and I was interrupted so many times; fear - not of failure, but of disappointment.
This is where I wanted to get to. Not just in this particular case, but in general, I do things just not to disappoint somebody. I know what they expect from me and then my biggest fear becomes not to meet those expectations. I don't do everything for myself, but for the others... NOW how stupid is this from me?
In this case, I don't want to disappoint two persons: Jorgen and my teacher. Jorgen is also a teacher in Sweden, but mostly he is my friend. He was here two weeks ago and he helped me in studying, it felt so good and I was so sure It will be more then fine. Now... why my teacher? he didn't do anything special, but I respect and admire him so much. He is more than just a good teacher and this is why I want to have the best result in the exam and not disappoint him. BUT, he doesn't know this, I never told him, so I don't think it will like this for him. THEN... how stupid is this from me?
How can you give half of icecream to a kid?
Now I only see half of all the picture I used to see from my window. I see the sunset, half of a big concrete appartments block and nothing else. The other half of the rest of the picture is now a new white roof over the terase/long balcony we have.
I know now for sure I want to live in a small house with extremely large windows. The alternative? A tent in a glade.
Silence
One day I will be so far from my home, from my land... that I will wish to feel nothing else than what I feel right now and to be were I am right now. Silent and calm, both in feeling and place.
So far away...that nothing is the same, not even the sound of the first tram in the morning. Creaking out slowly just for the 2 people waiting for it at the first station.
One day I will miss those 2 strangers, the smell of morning fresh air in Cluj and that peaceful silence at 5 am.